You have to keep in mind that everyone is different. You can't expect that someone else's methods of dieting and fitness routines will work for you in the exact same say. You may get different results, but more importantly, you may not be happy in doing their methods. You have to find what works for you.
The mind, body, and soul can lead us in very different directions. It's important to realize that they are separate entities, yet they work together in the balancing act.
Questions you can ask your body...
Does this feel good? (exercising too often or working out with sore muscles)
Does this taste good? (don't eat something that isn't appetizing just because it's good for you)
Are you tired? (rest days)
Am I full? (there is a difference between satisfied and full)
Questions you can ask your mind...
Is this taking up too much of my time? (counting calories, planning meals, counting macros)
Do you feel guilty? (beating yourself up for missing a workout or having a treat)
Are you comparing yourself? (focusing on others, their bodies, their results)
Are you doing this for the right reasons? (eating healthy and working to feel good, not solely for physical reasons)
Questions you can ask your soul...
Do you need an indulgence? (cupcakes, pizza, cheeseburgers)
Are you missing out on moments with friends or family? (skipping dates or parties due to food)
Does this comfort you? (warm soul food on a chilly day or ice cream on a hot day)
Are you happy with yourself? (self-love, body image)
The answers to these questions will bring you closer to finding a balance that works for you. Sitting down with these thoughts or even journaling can be very helpful. Also, think about why you're doing this.
For me, I like to typically eat healthy throughout the week, and indulge in a treat meal or two on a date with my fiancé or out with my girlfriends. When I say treat meal, I mean margaritas, appetizers, and an entree. I go all out. It's what keeps me sane and it's what keeps me happy. Will it work for you? I don't know. Try it if you want.
I'm not going to lie to you and say I like fruit more than cookies. That's insane to me. Give me that ooey gooey chocolate chip cookie. However, I'm not going to eat cookies day in and day out because I would probably barf and get a headache from too much sugar. And yes, I want my jeans to fit comfortably.
I hope you ask yourself these questions and work towards achieving a balance in your life. It is possible with practice and staying in tune with yourself.
How do YOU find balance? Please share.