Self-doubt. Criticism. Guilt. Judgments. Do these sound familiar? These can put a damper on your mood, on your day, on your self-esteem. They aren't ideal thoughts, yet we seem to be stuck with them the majority of the time. Why is it easier to bash ourselves or others, than to uplift both parties? NO BUENO!
I want you to do something. Your mission: think of something positive about yourself or about your life. Right now. First thing that comes to mind. Comment it down below.
Was it hard to think of something? Was it easy? Did it take you five seconds or five minutes?
Let me tell you something. You're breathing, right? You have the vision and the knowledge to be able to read this, right? You have a phone, tablet, or computer to access this, right?
Aren't those all positive things? I'd say "yes." See? It isn't that difficult to think positive thoughts, no matter how big or how small. You just have to take the time to realize it, whether you reflect when you wake up in the morning or go to bed at night. It doesn't matter what time of day, but taking the time to find the good in yourself, in your life, in others can go a long way.
If you found it difficult to think of something, let's work on that!
Is there something or someone that really just gets you down? Maybe it's a job, something you read, a friendship, or a relationship. You probably dwell on it, complain about it, feel sorry for yourself, but the one thing you aren't doing is finding a solution. Pity parties are fun for a little bit, but you can easily get drunk off of them and find yourself alone, without a way home. You see, pity parties are really only meant for one person...yourself. Others might join you for a phone call or for a night out at the bar, but they don't stay. You have to sober up and find your way home.
YOU are the only one who has complete control over your thoughts and your mood and your life! YOU have the power to decide how your chapter ends or how it begins. YOU have the opportunity to change a situation. YOU are the only one who can actually do any of this and decide when to do it.
So, what's stopping you?
Is it the fear of quitting a job you hate? Is it fear of being alone? Is it the fear of the unknown?
I see a lot of fear in these questions, but I don't see enough of...
How will I feel when I am free from this awful job? Who will I meet next? What wonderful things lay ahead?
See? Even the way you re-word a question can change the whole thought! Let's look at some other keys to a positive mind.