The truth is, a lot of people don't understand this lifestyle. When people don't understand things, they are the first to judge. That can be frustrating. You'd think people would be happy you're trying to better yourself, but there are usually feelings of jealousy or envy, which translate into hurtful or judgmental comments. What you need to remember is that this is your journey, and not everyone is going to understand that, nor do they need to. This is for you. Try to let those comments just roll off your back, or if it's really bothering you, then have a heart-to-heart.
It's so important to surround yourself with people who encourage you, push you, and lift you up. As we grow older, we have more power in who we choose to be in our lives. It's not like high school, where you're kind of stuck with the same group of friends because it's all you know. Thank goodness! We have the power to choose who compliment us and challenge us. That's a freaking beautiful thing.
I've found that I have surrounded myself with a pretty good crew, many of which were not my friends a few years ago. When I first started out on this lifestyle, a lot of old "friends" poked fun at me and tried to bring me down. I moved forward and found people who supported me. And no, these people don't go to the gym or eat healthy, but they respect what I do. My fiancé doesn't step foot in the gym, but he still motivates me to get there and do my thing. I don't really have any friends or family who enjoy working out, but that's okay. They support me and even ask me for tips sometimes.
This lifestyle isn't easy a lot of the time. It's tough. People think "fitness people" are always on point with everything. Hell no. At least, not me. I wake up some days and I want to roll up in a ball with Netflix. My meals aren't prepped in tupperware, and I crave pizza at least 2-3 times a day. I have bad days where I sit on the couch, lift my shirt up, and make my stomach chub talk. I need support sometimes. We all do.
Make sure you have these people in your life...
Gym buddy. These people like to workout with you. Having someone to meet at a certain time keeps you accountable. It helps you roll out of bed and get your gym gear on. You wouldn't bail on a friend for dinner last minute, so don't bail on them for a workout.
Listener. Sometimes you just need someone to vent to. Maybe you feel crappy after one to many treat meals. Maybe you are so sore that it hurts to pick anything up or sit down on the toilet. Maybe you just aren't feeling good about yourself. Having someone who listens and can give you a hug, without judgment is awesome.
Motivator. Having someone who listens is great, but sometimes we need someone who is going to give us tough love. We all have excuses, but excuses are useless in the grand scheme of things. Having someone who reminds us of that and kicks our ass into high gear is what we need at those lazy moments.
Instagram Guru. These people are awesome. They post motivating photos and quotes. They may not know they're supporting you, but they are. Just knowing someone is out there going through the same thing or working out or eating a healthy meal is comforting. I love my #fitfam!
Yourself. You are your biggest supporter (and also your biggest enemy). Make sure you are kind, loving, and supportive to yourself. Don't let setbacks take you down or make you give up. Keep going!!!